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Debbie Roffman is a sexuality educator, consultant, and author based in Baltimore, Maryland, where she has taught sexuality education in grades 4-12 for more than 35 years. Debbie is the author of Talk to Me First: Everything You Need to Know to Become Your Kids’ “Go-To” Person About Sex, published in 2013 by Perseus Books. Debbie works with parents, teachers, administrators, students, alumni, and trustees in schools across the country. She presents and publishes widely and is in demand on sex and sexuality topics throughout the national media. Debbie’s ability to find common ground by keeping the focus on young people and their universal needs around healthy sexual development is one of her gifts.

Welcome! I am a Human Sexuality educator, author, and consultant. Next to teaching students in grades 4-12, my passion is supporting families and schools everywhere in becoming children’s primary–as in first and most important–sexuality educators. Please take time to browse the website. I’ve provided resources and information throughout which I hope you find informative and helpful, along with up-to-date information on my work with kids, parents, and school people.

  • Reviews and information about the books I’ve written, including my latest, Talk to Me First
  • Information about the presentations and consulting services I provide for students, schools, parents, and youth serving groups across the US.
  • Resources for parents, teachers, and children, including articles I’ve written on a variety of subjects related to sexuality and gender.
  • News of upcoming events and interviews, and links to my recent radio and TV appearances.
  • My calendar of events and speaking engagements, and contact information.
  • My blog, which covers a wide range of topics important for parents and professionals to know and talk about with young people, and where you can join the conversation aby commenting.

I hope you find what you need!

New book!!  Talk to Me First: Everything You Need to
Know to Become Your Kids’ Go-To Person about Sex

Nationally acclaimed educator and author of Sex and Sensibility, Deborah Roffman distills her more than thirty years of experience teaching kids—and their parents—into this indispensable guide, helping you to be your kids’ number one source for information and guidance on human sexuality. Roffman tackles everything from developmental stages to strategies for handling embarrassing or difficult conversations, offering the best ways to make sure you both keep talking (and listening).

Deborah Roffman’s work on childhood and teen sexuality has been featured in numerous publications, including the Washington Post and USA Today. A recipient of the Mary Lee Tatum Apple Award from Planned Parenthood Federation of America, she has also been recognized by the National Federation of Republican Women. The mother of two grown sons, she lives with her husband in Baltimore, Maryland.

We live in a time when kids of all ages are bombarded with age-sensitive material wherever they turn; “sexting” and bullying are on the rise at an increasingly younger age, and teen moms are “celebrified.” What is a concerned–and embarrassed–parent to do? With wit, wisdom, and savvy, Deborah Roffman translates her experiences gleaned from decades of teaching kids and parents, and as a mom, into strategies to help parents navigate this tricky terrain. Talk to Me First is for any parent who wants to become and remain the most credible and influential resource about sexuality in their children’s lives.

What Experts are Saying about Talk to Me First…

—Michael G. Thompson, PhD,
author of the New York Times bestseller Raising Cain

“By the time you finish reading Talk to Me First, you will want to have a conversation about sex with your children. With compassion for adults and a profound developmental understanding of children, Ms. Roffman shows you how to overcome your own inhibitions so that you can send your son or daughter towards a sexual life that is intimate, satisfying, and responsible.”

—Robie H. Harris,
award-winning author of It’s Perfectly Normal and It’s Not The Stork!

“Roffman gives parents and educators a gift that not only tells us what to say about sexualityto today’s kids, but also helps us understand why so many of us feel the way we do about talking about this crucial topic. Roffman gives us the words, understanding, anconfidence we need, and enables us to give young people the gift of staying healthy and safe at every stage of childhood and adolescence.”

—Jennifer Bryan, PhD,
author of From the Dress-Up Corner to the Senior Prom

“Talk to Me First is really a guide to becoming your kids’ go-to person about life. As a parent and a professional, I am doubly grateful for Roffman’s clarity and practicality; she knows that parents must be ‘ongoing nurturers’ rather than ‘periodic information givers’ if they are going to successfully counter today’s valueless marketing and media messages about intimacy and relationships.”

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